THE TIME
I haven’t written a blog in a while now due to a lot of things going on in my life.
I like to grow and reflect on things which may not always be positive.
I have been learning a lot of lessons but I wasn’t ready to learn them yet.
Whilst learning, I found my mind changing towards certain things.
I like to grow and reflect on things which may not always be positive.
I have been learning a lot of lessons but I wasn’t ready to learn them yet.
Whilst learning, I found my mind changing towards certain things.
I have lost a lot of people in my life, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing but the truth is, that some relationships do need to end for you to grow. I have had this attitude for a while now, especially after losing someone who I considered to be my sister, I was no longer afraid to lose anyone. But now, after spending time apart; many people are coming back into my life to start fresh. Time heals everything, when you have disagreements with someone understand that in that moment it is happening to teach you. How you respond to it reflects who you are.
I don’t particularly define what I do because I don’t want to be put under a category. I was for a long time in my life to exclude my unique identify from normality. I intend to be a part of changing the world. As should you. I aim to help a little girl who may hate what grows from her crown the way I did. For me to help others, I must be able to help myself.
We are all different, we have all been raised to view life in our own way. So sometimes, you will meet people who disagree with you. That is okay, it does not make you wrong, nor does it make them right. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I used to try so hard to change peoples perspectives of Africa as every time I told people my Queen was from there, they’d laugh or criticise for what they had seen in the media. It upset me because what I saw and what the camera captured were two different things but then I realised that what I had seen, they hadn’t so I was wasting my time trying to change their frame of mind.
Before I created myself, I was always trying to find ways to fit in around the variety of friends that I had. It was very exhausting as I found myself hiding my true self. I only reveal a part of me to the online world, not because I am ashamed of who I am but because I am not for everyone.
I don’t particularly define what I do because I don’t want to be put under a category. I was for a long time in my life to exclude my unique identify from normality. I intend to be a part of changing the world. As should you. I aim to help a little girl who may hate what grows from her crown the way I did. For me to help others, I must be able to help myself.
We are all different, we have all been raised to view life in our own way. So sometimes, you will meet people who disagree with you. That is okay, it does not make you wrong, nor does it make them right. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I used to try so hard to change peoples perspectives of Africa as every time I told people my Queen was from there, they’d laugh or criticise for what they had seen in the media. It upset me because what I saw and what the camera captured were two different things but then I realised that what I had seen, they hadn’t so I was wasting my time trying to change their frame of mind.
Before I created myself, I was always trying to find ways to fit in around the variety of friends that I had. It was very exhausting as I found myself hiding my true self. I only reveal a part of me to the online world, not because I am ashamed of who I am but because I am not for everyone.
With that being said, I recently met with a wonderful friend of mine. She isn’t following the traditions of what many people around us engrave in our minds, I’ve written a blog about it so I won’t get into that. But amongst all the dreams and laughter, the topic of love, boys and all those cute things came up. We were laughing at some of the corny lines which we had received. Then I realised, I was speaking in the past. I do not get them anymore. I began to question why and realised who I was a few years ago is not who I am today. We were both advised to post “thirst traps”, if you are like my Mum who was confused by this word; simply meaning posting revealing pictures. I wondered if I was to do such a thing, who would I attract? The thing is, you attract what you reflect. I cannot modify myself simply because I desire the attention of a male. If I do not respect myself, who will respect me?
I am in no rush to find love, I create it within me so each day I can continue to blossom into who I am destined to be. It can be daunting living in a cyclical structured life where you see the same people everyday but you are yet to hop on planes to different continents to meet some of the most vibrant people. Do not rush love, do not force vibes with people who are not meant to be in your life. The energy never lies, and as much as you can desire someone; it does not necessarily mean they are good for you. You want to be with someone that adds new dimensions to the person you already are.
I am in no rush to find love, I create it within me so each day I can continue to blossom into who I am destined to be. It can be daunting living in a cyclical structured life where you see the same people everyday but you are yet to hop on planes to different continents to meet some of the most vibrant people. Do not rush love, do not force vibes with people who are not meant to be in your life. The energy never lies, and as much as you can desire someone; it does not necessarily mean they are good for you. You want to be with someone that adds new dimensions to the person you already are.
love & light,
frogirl
frogirl